One offer has more cash, the other more equity. How do I compare them?
Value the equity at zero and see whether the decision changes. If the lower-cash offer still wins on work and people, the equity is upside. If it only wins with the equity counted at face value, you are being paid in a lottery ticket priced by the seller.
How much notice is reasonable when the handover is complex?
Whatever the contract says, plus a written handover that outlives you: runbooks, access list, the three things that break at 3am. Extending the notice period rarely helps; writing things down always does.
Any way to opt out of whiteboard interviews without seeming difficult?
Offer a substitute rather than a refusal: a take-home you have already done, a walkthrough of public work, or pair debugging on their codebase. Companies that decline all three have told you something useful about how they work.
What is the most common way people get this wrong?
Doing it once and never verifying. The setup is the visible part, so it gets attention, and the check that would catch a silent failure never gets written.